I have hesitated on many occasions to blog about my parenthood.... My little princesses have grown - they are nine and seven now. I have little parenting concerns for my elder when it comes to being independent, school work and working hard for what she wants. Even so, I have several disagreements with my queen on how we raise our princesses. Maybe because of my military upbringing, a keen believer of late Mr Lee and a kind of lazing Father.. I simply do not believe in "doing for them".
Many a times, I noticed my Queen, MIL and even my parents showering help (concerns) and taking care of things for them. I disagree. They have to learn to be responsible for whatever they do, from young. Sadly to me, this also slowly became the crux of our constant disagreements. I learn to slowly gave in but not giving up my beliefs. I no longer interfere with their approach, but when its my turn, I will do it my way.
My second princess (yes, I just got a seven months old princess) is quite an opposite to my elder. She always blame verbally on why sister did not guide her on her school work, waiting for food to be on the table, even waiting for my domestic helper to help her out on her normal routine such as bathing. Yes, my queen disagree on many of my observations, but surely she is much less independent, weaker in school work and less said about her perseverance to complete her school work - timely.
Today, I was unsurprisingly taken aback by my queen. My second princess moved the dining chair to the study table, knocked the PC over and in the process crack the screen - its quite a bad knock and PC screen is gone. Instead of educating my young, she comforted her - of course, no point screaming around to make her cry even louder. But haise.. Interestingly, she went on to blame me for insisting her to "do things in her own" and this happened.. She thereafter instructing the domestic helper to help my kid carry the chair or pass her the office chair on roller. I was annoyed.. "the more she fall, the more she need to learn to stand on her own..." why must we take over her task so that it is accident free? It is the beginning of a silent protest.. 😳
Picture insert from anti aging research: http://www.antiagingresearch.com/fathering.shtml
